Religious Traditions

Catholic Services

Catholic funeral masses have a defined structure, and music plays a role at specific points: the entrance, the responsorial psalm, offertory, communion, and recessional. I work with the parish music director or celebrant to ensure the selections are appropriate for the liturgy. If the family has specific hymns in mind, I do my best to incorporate them where they fit.

Protestant and Christian Services

Protestant memorial services vary widely in format. Some follow a traditional order of worship; others are more informal. I adapt to the structure the pastor or family prefers, providing music at the moments where it's most helpful—whether that's a prelude, hymn accompaniment, or quiet reflection during prayers.

Jewish Memorial Gatherings

Jewish funerals and shiva gatherings have their own traditions. Music, when included, is typically understated and respectful. I can provide soft instrumental background during visitation or as guests arrive, while being mindful of the customs specific to the family's practice.

Secular and Non-Religious Services

Many families today hold services that are personal rather than religious. These may include readings, eulogies, and rituals that reflect the individual who has passed. Music in these settings follows the tone the family sets—calm, reflective, and supportive.

Other Traditions

I'm open to playing for families of any religious or spiritual background. If your tradition isn't listed here, please reach out—I'm happy to learn about the customs and discuss how music might fit appropriately.

Moments Where Music Appears

Processional

As the service begins and family or casket enters, music can soften the weight of the moment. A quiet, steady piece allows people to settle and focus.

Reflection and Readings

Some services include moments of silence, prayer, or scripture. Soft music during or between these moments can provide continuity and comfort.

Closing and Recessional

As the service ends and guests prepare to leave or move to the graveside, music eases the transition. It gives people something to hold onto as they gather their thoughts.

Working with Clergy and Officiants

I defer to the officiant in all matters of timing and structure. Before the service, I check in to understand where music is expected and where it should pause. During the service, I watch for cues and stay ready to adjust. If the clergy prefers no music during certain portions, I respect that fully.

My goal is to be helpful without adding to anyone's burden. I don't require extensive coordination—just a brief conversation beforehand is usually enough.

Graveside Services

Graveside services are often brief and exposed to the elements. Acoustic guitar is well-suited to these settings—it travels easily, requires no power, and provides a human warmth that recorded music cannot. I position myself at a respectful distance and play softly as guests gather, during the committal, and as they depart.

Respecting the Service Structure

Every tradition has its own rhythm. I've learned to listen for it and stay within it. My presence should make the day feel a little more supported, not more complicated. If there's ever any question about what's appropriate, I defer to the family and officiant.